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“This Emotional Life” Uplifting

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

In the final installment of PBS’s “This Emotional Life” series, episode 3 “Rethinking Happiness” focused on happiness, rejuvenation and misperceptions regarding how beliefs that are sometimes associated with happiness may not actually influence happiness at all. Why is the one thing we all crave so elusive?

This Emotional LifeHappiness, at the core, is a state of mind, a choice, and the debate ensues regarding money and its effect. I fall into the camp of belief that money is only associated to happiness based on the degree of comfort in one’s surroundings that it can create, not that it inherently causes happiness in and of itself (picture curling up in front of a fire with stacks of $20s).

But what about serious depression? I mean, if Chevy Chase, who has lots and lots of money, has trouble finding the correct anti-depressant for 6 years, what does that say about money’s role and strength regarding happiness?

In the end, it is the quality of our relationships that influences happiness, which so perfectly brings us circling back to episode 1, and so it goes.

Be prepared for MFT3 to refer to this series often regarding the multitude of topics that were so beautifully illustrated by PBS. I hope you were as moved by it as I was.

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Episode 2 “This Emotional Life” Powerful!

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010

This Emotional LifeEpisode 2 of PBS’s “This Emotional Life” series looks at emotions that are commonly regarded as obstacles to happiness — such as anger, fear, anxiety, and despair. At first blush these seem like pretty heavy topics, don’t I already know all about them, how much enjoyment can I get out of this show when I don’t have those problems?

The thing that this episode, “Facing Our Fears” so poignantly expresses is that we all do have all of these feelings, but what to do when they become unmanageable? And what does unmanageable look like, really?

As a therapist I am proud of PBS for being so thorough and explicit, going to the tough place and shedding light into some commonly dark corners. I will be using these episodes as resources for current and future clients as a launching pad for conversations about grief, trauma, depression, fear, how families of the afflicted can be affected and more.

I cannot wait to see tonight’s last episode. I hope you tune in as well. If you missed episode 2, click here to view the entire 2-hour show.

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Happy New Year!

Saturday, January 2nd, 2010

2010 is upon us and everyone at MFT3 would like to wish you and yours a happy, healthy, safe and peaceful new year (let us know if we can help in any way, too!).

There is an upcoming special on PBS called “This Emotional Life” that looks to be something special, something that we can all learn from. It’s about people and relationships, happiness and depression, and how to make sense out of many things that seem to be so elusive.

Tune in January 4, 5 and 6 and enjoy. MFT3 will be posting responses here as well as on our Twitter feed.

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MFT3 on Channel 17

Saturday, December 12th, 2009

Every night this week (12/10–12/16/09), tune in from 8-9 pm to Trumbull’s Channel 17 to see MFT3′s workshop presentation at Total Learning and Therapy Center titled “Happy Parents = Happy Kids”.

Please contact MFT3 at info@mft3.com or 203-416-6008 to schedule workshops or presentations for your group, congregation, school or business.

We look forward to working with you.

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Intimacy Building Exercise

Saturday, December 5th, 2009

On Thursday December 3, MFT3 presented a workshop called “Happy Parents = Happy Kids” at TLTC which will be broadcast locally on Trumbull, CT Channel 17 (I will let you know when we get the air dates).

One of the exercises met with particular interest, the Balance Wheel, so I am posting it here now if anyone would like to download it for their own use.

I would like to thank everyone who came out and joined us, and we will let you know of upcoming workshops or presentations as they are scheduled.

Of course, please contact info@mft3.com if you would like to arrange for a custom workshop or presentation for your company or organization.

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Free Workshop; “Happy Parents = Happy Kids”

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

Join MFT3 as we present a free workshop on December 3 from 7-8pm at the offices of Total Learning and Therapy Center in Trumbull, CT. We will explore three topics; family structure and culture, conflict resolution and repairs, and building intimacy and reconnecting.

Registration is required so please call 203-268-8852 if you are interested in attending this free workshop.

TLTC Flier

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The Cost of Mental Health Care

Sunday, November 22nd, 2009

The New York Times has run two articles recently, “How to Find Mental Health Care When Money Is Tight” and “In Anxious Times, Medical Help for the Mind as Well as the Body” which ran 2 weeks ago. While I found many important and useful links and points of information, I was left wanting to clarify the points of cost and access.

Mental health practitioners are concerned first in helping people who want it. Yes, we are in this business to make a living, but part of the calling is also seeing that nobody goes without care when it’s needed. At MFT3 we have what is called a sliding scale fee structure. What that means is that we will reduce the rate to make sessions more accessible to a potential client. This policy is based on creating a relationship that is mutually satisfying; I don’t want a client coming in less frequently than therapeutically sustainable due to cost, I would rather take a smaller fee and create a better healing environment.

Of course, argument goes to the notion if someone is already in a depressed or anxious state, that discussing costs may not be a first thought or come naturally. I always discuss cost first over the phone but also check-in with the client as we move forward and adjust as necessary as situations change.

I have also developed a large and diverse network of collaborative professionals who are in every type of agency, and can refer to a no-cost practitioner if that best suits a client’s needs. I personally have never found the size of a fee having any impact – pro or con – on someone’s ability to be seen by a therapist. This notion flies in the face of the ethics of the field.

As we have been learning, not all insurance plans are created equally and the mere fact that someone has insurance does not ensure that they have good mental health coverage. Also, as jobs are lost so goes insurance in many instances. By having created a personal financial relationship separate from insurance via sliding scale, I find that clients are more apt to continue with sessions in the midst of job loss as a support through the depression associated with the loss, the work of finding a new job, supporting all family members through potential lifestyle changes, and so on.

My point is to always ask about cost, especially if it may be an extra stressor during an already tough time. As professionals, we are well aware and prepared to work with you in this matter. Yes, therapy will cost you money, but let us not underestimate the costs associated with not treating mental illness in a timely manner, too.

Please note that depression, particularly, is an isolating condition, and that getting out and finding a therapist is a very important step in breaking the solitary hold it can have on someone. If prescription medication is indicated, note too that some may take as long as 3 months to stabilize in your system, not a quick fix.

And always, if the need is critical, call 9-1-1 first.

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Thanksgiving

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

Autumn is a time of falling leaves and new smells, battening down the hatches and preparing for winter, a time to reflect and regroup after the frenetic pace of summer and all of its activities. How appropriate that Thanksgiving is the major holiday of fall.

There is so much that comes with holidays, especially Thanksgiving; the emotions, the traditions, the family juggling, all amidst your own desire for a relaxing and reflective break. I have posted a bunch of fun and informative tweets regarding thoughts on Thanksgiving, check them out at http://twitter.com/mft3.

  • I am a lousy baker and quiver at the thought of making a pie from scratch, enjoy the Awl post which gave me a bit of hope.
  • I know that the “letter” has made the rounds but it’s a funny classic, enjoy. (If this is your family, we are booking appointments for Monday…)
  • My family is one of those grace-challenged ones so I especially liked the many ideas posed in the BlogHer post.
  • And giving back, after we reflect on all of the abundance that we really do have, is always a nice way to round out this thoughtful holiday, some nice ideas and links to explore.

Above all else, Thanksgiving is a time to reflect and give thanks first and foremost for you and then for all of the other bounty and challenge that life offers each one of us.

MFT3 wishes everyone a happy, safe and healthy Thanksgiving.

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Wishing You a Happy Halloween

Friday, October 30th, 2009

MFT3 would like to wish everyone a safe, fun and Happy Halloween!

Enjoy this “sweet” that won’t cause cavities!

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

MFT3 is kicking off Domestic Violence Awareness Month with education, information and conversation!

As promised, Katherine Allen made a return appearance on Nina Sutton‘s radio show, One Smart Mother, heard Tuesdays at 9a on WGCH-AM 1490 of Greenwich, CT (read about our first appearance here).  You can listen to the 30 minute interview in its entirety below (also available through this direct link to the MP3):

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Today’s topic was DV among the affluent and teen dating abuse, to launch DV Awareness Month. There is far too much information to squeeze into a half-hour radio show or this blog, so please look at the resources listed below and contact DVCC’s state-wide hotline at 1-888-774-2900 to ask about events and information in your hometown.

Domestic Violence can be stopped with conversations, education and collaboration.

As mentioned on the show, here is a link to the “Love Is Not Abuse” website, and some excerpts from the “Love Is Not Abuse” teen dating curriculum (LINA sample pages). The therapists of MFT3 are all able to present this program to your school, congregation or community; please contact us if you would like to learn more.

The book, “Not to People Like Us” by Susan Weitzman, PhD is a great resource regarding upscale abuse. One thing to mention is the payoff principle hidden in upscale abuse. A woman (typically) will continue to put up with abuse on the “slot machine” principle; I have taken so much, my payday is surely to come soon. She sees his assets and gains, often projecting them onto her children’s futures, so continues to take the abuse, hoping for the elusive payday in the end.

Some local events:

  • Weston DV Task Force Meeting: Friday, October 2, 9am, Weston Town Hall, open to any and all interested people.
  • Weston Awareness Day: Saturday, October 3, 9am-12 noon. Town Center. There will be an official Town Proclamation by Woody Bliss, Teen Task Force bake sale, Information table and Purple Ribbon display.
  • Westport Train Station Awareness Event: Thursday, October 8, 5:30am. Saugatuck train station will be where adult men and male teens will be handing out awareness materials during the morning commute, spearheaded by Westport Police Sargeant John Pitoniak.
  • Metanoia-Prevent Violence Against Women: UCONN, week of October 5-9.
  • On October 1 at 11:00 a.m., First Selectwoman Evonne Klein will give a Proclamation at the Darien Library declaring October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
  • Ninety-one purple ribbons are tied on the trees lining the downtown area and Noroton Heights.  The purple ribbons are a symbol of remembrance for the victims of domestic violence. During the fiscal year 2008/2009, there were 91 domestic disturbance calls to the Darien Police Department.
  • Posters highlighting the power and control tactics used by perpetrators of domestic abuse to control their victims will be displayed by local merchants in their storefront windows or within their store. Domestic violence is not about anger but power and control.
  • Ringing of church bells on October 1 at 12:00 p.m. The bells will ring 91 times for each call made to the Darien Police Department.
  • The classic film “Gaslight” will be featured at the Darien Library’s Friday Film Night on October 9.
  • “The Legal System’s Response to Domestic Violence” – Presentation by Nancy Dolinsky, Senior Assistant State’s Attorney and Ken Edwards, Jr., an Inspector in the CT Chief State’s Attorney’s Office, Specialized Domestic Violence Unit – October 14, 10:00 a.m. Darien Town Hall, Room 206.
  • Fairfield University: Saturday October 24, members of MFT3 will be panelists for a discussion regarding Domestic Violence.
  • “Hit Me On Your Cell”: Thursday, December 3, 9-7pm, Saxe Middle School, New Canaan, CT. Several town DV task forces join with the DVCC to present a program focusing on teen digital abuse. John Seigenthaler of Weston will be the moderator. In addition, teens are working on a short video illustrating what the students have seen, heard, or experienced concerning this issue.

And the list goes on. Please feel free to contact MFT3 by e-mail or by phone at 203-416-6008 as our clinicians are trained to respond in a sensitive and confidential way to any of your questions.

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