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Thank you TPSLD!

Thursday, March 4th, 2010

Heartfelt thanks to Jacki Bruni and Yolanda Soto for their amazing event on Saturday, the 2010 Summer Options for Children with Special Needs…An Educational Expo at the Trumbull Library. It was such a pleasure to be included in the mix, to meet so many wonderful service providers and to explain how family therapy can be a final piece in the pie of services that families (and couples) with special needs kids can benefit from.

I have created a link on this blog with all of the wellness services from the event, please use it and share it with others, and I will be adding to the list as I learn of more services or opportunities.

One thing I wonder is how all of these families can come together and assist one another in a new way. Every family is struggling with burn-out, with couple breakdown, with having too much to do and not enough time. How can a community support group be built where things like shared babysitting (of trained and skilled childcare workers) is a real option, where Moms or Dads can share in carpooling to classes or workshops. Just thoughts but I’d love to hear your feedback.

Congratulations TPSLD! Keep up the great work!

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Reality TV Highs and Lows

Friday, February 26th, 2010

I have been pondering this post for some time. As a therapist who is focusing much of my information sharing in these posts as reflections on events in the media, I have been thinking about some of the reality TV shows and their therapeutic integrity and appropriateness.

Take A&E’s Intervention. An amazing show, filled with the real pain and trials that addiction submits to everyone in the system. There is no such thing as an addict in a vacuum, loved ones and the community are ultimately involved and harmed in the cycle of addiction no matter how you look at it.

They have introduced some new episode formats, like the one highlighted in the pic here, that are in-depth looks at specific types of drug classes and their impact. This particular one highlights Huffing, something that astoundingly far too many parents are not educated about or aware of. This was a powerful episode featuring not only success stories but some tragic endings as well.

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Teen Dating Violence

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

I was informed today of this powerful interview that CBS Evening News and @katiecouric have run recently regarding the growing problem of teen dating abuse and violence.

The video below shows part of the CBS broadcast and then delves deeper with Jane Randel of Liz Claiborne, Vice President and developer of the “Love Is Not Abuse” curriculum (which is available to your school or group through MFT3), and Catherine Pierce, Deputy Director for the Justice Department’s Office on Violence Against Women.

Please watch, learn, talk with your kids, and share with as many people as you can. Remember that silence perpetuates abuse and violence, speaking up can stop it.


Watch CBS News Videos Online

If you are interested in having MFT3 bring the “Love Is Not Abuse” curriculum to your school or group, please contact Katherine Allen at 203-416-6008 x602 or e-mail katherine@mft3.com.

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“This Emotional Life” Uplifting

Thursday, January 7th, 2010

In the final installment of PBS’s “This Emotional Life” series, episode 3 “Rethinking Happiness” focused on happiness, rejuvenation and misperceptions regarding how beliefs that are sometimes associated with happiness may not actually influence happiness at all. Why is the one thing we all crave so elusive?

This Emotional LifeHappiness, at the core, is a state of mind, a choice, and the debate ensues regarding money and its effect. I fall into the camp of belief that money is only associated to happiness based on the degree of comfort in one’s surroundings that it can create, not that it inherently causes happiness in and of itself (picture curling up in front of a fire with stacks of $20s).

But what about serious depression? I mean, if Chevy Chase, who has lots and lots of money, has trouble finding the correct anti-depressant for 6 years, what does that say about money’s role and strength regarding happiness?

In the end, it is the quality of our relationships that influences happiness, which so perfectly brings us circling back to episode 1, and so it goes.

Be prepared for MFT3 to refer to this series often regarding the multitude of topics that were so beautifully illustrated by PBS. I hope you were as moved by it as I was.

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Episode 2 “This Emotional Life” Powerful!

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010

This Emotional LifeEpisode 2 of PBS’s “This Emotional Life” series looks at emotions that are commonly regarded as obstacles to happiness — such as anger, fear, anxiety, and despair. At first blush these seem like pretty heavy topics, don’t I already know all about them, how much enjoyment can I get out of this show when I don’t have those problems?

The thing that this episode, “Facing Our Fears” so poignantly expresses is that we all do have all of these feelings, but what to do when they become unmanageable? And what does unmanageable look like, really?

As a therapist I am proud of PBS for being so thorough and explicit, going to the tough place and shedding light into some commonly dark corners. I will be using these episodes as resources for current and future clients as a launching pad for conversations about grief, trauma, depression, fear, how families of the afflicted can be affected and more.

I cannot wait to see tonight’s last episode. I hope you tune in as well. If you missed episode 2, click here to view the entire 2-hour show.

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Happy New Year!

Saturday, January 2nd, 2010

2010 is upon us and everyone at MFT3 would like to wish you and yours a happy, healthy, safe and peaceful new year (let us know if we can help in any way, too!).

There is an upcoming special on PBS called “This Emotional Life” that looks to be something special, something that we can all learn from. It’s about people and relationships, happiness and depression, and how to make sense out of many things that seem to be so elusive.

Tune in January 4, 5 and 6 and enjoy. MFT3 will be posting responses here as well as on our Twitter feed.

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MFT3 on Channel 17

Saturday, December 12th, 2009

Every night this week (12/10–12/16/09), tune in from 8-9 pm to Trumbull’s Channel 17 to see MFT3’s workshop presentation at Total Learning and Therapy Center titled “Happy Parents = Happy Kids”.

Please contact MFT3 at info@mft3.com or 203-416-6008 to schedule workshops or presentations for your group, congregation, school or business.

We look forward to working with you.

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Intimacy Building Exercise

Saturday, December 5th, 2009

On Thursday December 3, MFT3 presented a workshop called “Happy Parents = Happy Kids” at TLTC which will be broadcast locally on Trumbull, CT Channel 17 (I will let you know when we get the air dates).

One of the exercises met with particular interest, the Balance Wheel, so I am posting it here now if anyone would like to download it for their own use.

I would like to thank everyone who came out and joined us, and we will let you know of upcoming workshops or presentations as they are scheduled.

Of course, please contact info@mft3.com if you would like to arrange for a custom workshop or presentation for your company or organization.

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Free Workshop; “Happy Parents = Happy Kids”

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

Join MFT3 as we present a free workshop on December 3 from 7-8pm at the offices of Total Learning and Therapy Center in Trumbull, CT. We will explore three topics; family structure and culture, conflict resolution and repairs, and building intimacy and reconnecting.

Registration is required so please call 203-268-8852 if you are interested in attending this free workshop.

TLTC Flier

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The Cost of Mental Health Care

Sunday, November 22nd, 2009

The New York Times has run two articles recently, “How to Find Mental Health Care When Money Is Tight” and “In Anxious Times, Medical Help for the Mind as Well as the Body” which ran 2 weeks ago. While I found many important and useful links and points of information, I was left wanting to clarify the points of cost and access.

Mental health practitioners are concerned first in helping people who want it. Yes, we are in this business to make a living, but part of the calling is also seeing that nobody goes without care when it’s needed. At MFT3 we have what is called a sliding scale fee structure. What that means is that we will reduce the rate to make sessions more accessible to a potential client. This policy is based on creating a relationship that is mutually satisfying; I don’t want a client coming in less frequently than therapeutically sustainable due to cost, I would rather take a smaller fee and create a better healing environment.

Of course, argument goes to the notion if someone is already in a depressed or anxious state, that discussing costs may not be a first thought or come naturally. I always discuss cost first over the phone but also check-in with the client as we move forward and adjust as necessary as situations change.

I have also developed a large and diverse network of collaborative professionals who are in every type of agency, and can refer to a no-cost practitioner if that best suits a client’s needs. I personally have never found the size of a fee having any impact – pro or con – on someone’s ability to be seen by a therapist. This notion flies in the face of the ethics of the field.

As we have been learning, not all insurance plans are created equally and the mere fact that someone has insurance does not ensure that they have good mental health coverage. Also, as jobs are lost so goes insurance in many instances. By having created a personal financial relationship separate from insurance via sliding scale, I find that clients are more apt to continue with sessions in the midst of job loss as a support through the depression associated with the loss, the work of finding a new job, supporting all family members through potential lifestyle changes, and so on.

My point is to always ask about cost, especially if it may be an extra stressor during an already tough time. As professionals, we are well aware and prepared to work with you in this matter. Yes, therapy will cost you money, but let us not underestimate the costs associated with not treating mental illness in a timely manner, too.

Please note that depression, particularly, is an isolating condition, and that getting out and finding a therapist is a very important step in breaking the solitary hold it can have on someone. If prescription medication is indicated, note too that some may take as long as 3 months to stabilize in your system, not a quick fix.

And always, if the need is critical, call 9-1-1 first.

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