Comments on: Oprah, Denise Richards and Domestic Violence http://blog.mft3.com/2010/01/27/oprah-denise-richards-and-domestic-violence/ The official blog of <a href="http://www.mft3.com">Marriage and Family Therapy of Trumbull</a>, a full service mental health practice serving Fairfield County, CT Fri, 11 Jun 2010 20:58:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Katherine Allen http://blog.mft3.com/2010/01/27/oprah-denise-richards-and-domestic-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-545 Katherine Allen Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:28:38 +0000 http://blog.mft3.com/?p=328#comment-545 Thank you for your response. Yes, financial abuse is not often talked about. It also exists on a spectrum, from disallowing the victim to have access to sustainable work, cash, or credit to the sabotage of even menial work opportunities, usually by constant harassment and undermining of scheduling. It can also be by limiting the freedom of the victim by controlling her whereabouts by continually hauling the victim into court, making demands on her time and making it impossible for her to move to another state or country. The more we discuss the realities, the better able victims and their loved ones will be to make different decisions and end this cycle. Thank you for your response. Yes, financial abuse is not often talked about. It also exists on a spectrum, from disallowing the victim to have access to sustainable work, cash, or credit to the sabotage of even menial work opportunities, usually by constant harassment and undermining of scheduling. It can also be by limiting the freedom of the victim by controlling her whereabouts by continually hauling the victim into court, making demands on her time and making it impossible for her to move to another state or country. The more we discuss the realities, the better able victims and their loved ones will be to make different decisions and end this cycle.

]]> By: Elin E. http://blog.mft3.com/2010/01/27/oprah-denise-richards-and-domestic-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-527 Elin E. Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:00:18 +0000 http://blog.mft3.com/?p=328#comment-527 <blockquote>"Domestic violence is so much more than a broken arm or an attack with a knife. Typically, many months or years of emotional, financial, verbal, psychological and even sexual abuse have taken place before the cycle is raised to a physical level."</blockquote> This is so very true. I like that you include "financial" in with the other, slightly more intuitive, signs. After all, <a href="http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Ambassadors-of-Hope-Oprahs-Angel-Network/6" rel="nofollow">Marala Scott's</a> 'Indicators of an Abuser' mentions this very idea: "Keeps access to money away from you," and, "Forbids or prevents you from working." I hope women will be able to learn from Denise's problems, and avoid relationships in which men display the '<a href="http://seraphbooks.net/feedback_story.php" rel="nofollow">Indicators</a>'!

“Domestic violence is so much more than a broken arm or an attack with a knife. Typically, many months or years of emotional, financial, verbal, psychological and even sexual abuse have taken place before the cycle is raised to a physical level.”

This is so very true. I like that you include “financial” in with the other, slightly more intuitive, signs. After all, Marala Scott’s ‘Indicators of an Abuser’ mentions this very idea: “Keeps access to money away from you,” and, “Forbids or prevents you from working.” I hope women will be able to learn from Denise’s problems, and avoid relationships in which men display the ‘Indicators‘!

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